As a first time mum I am always told everything I am doing is wrong. The choices I make for my son are terrible too. I told my nurse that I have a stubborn son (at 4 months) who won’t nap during the day because he thinks he will miss out on things. She told me that babies have no concept of being stubborn. I then talked to my mum ans she said I was a very stubborn baby. So I put my son down to nap, he protest for about 5 minutes then drifts off to sleep. Is happier and more active because of this. But I am going to dmage him and stress him out. Funny that my mum said I did exactly the same thing. And I have a loving relationship with my parents and husband and no attachment issues. It’s time they start letting mothers use their common sense and instincts. I ate seafood, soft cheese when I was pregnant too, slept on my back. And have chucked the books people loaned me. I hope my son is proud of his bad mother!

As a first time mum, I felt like that everyone was looking down on me because I didn’t read all the books and do lots of research and wasn’t nervous.

I wanted to do things my way and who knows my child better? Me or some author who has never met her?

I am glad that there are other people out there that think like I do!

Thank you.

I was reading some of your blog and I am so glad to see someone finally saying what I have been thinking for years. I almost feel a little normal knowing there are other people out there that think like I do! SCARY!