As a first time mum I am always told everything I am doing is wrong. The choices I make for my son are terrible too. I told my nurse that I have a stubborn son (at 4 months) who won’t nap during the day because he thinks he will miss out on things. She told me that babies have no concept of being stubborn. I then talked to my mum ans she said I was a very stubborn baby. So I put my son down to nap, he protest for about 5 minutes then drifts off to sleep. Is happier and more active because of this. But I am going to dmage him and stress him out. Funny that my mum said I did exactly the same thing. And I have a loving relationship with my parents and husband and no attachment issues. It’s time they start letting mothers use their common sense and instincts. I ate seafood, soft cheese when I was pregnant too, slept on my back. And have chucked the books people loaned me. I hope my son is proud of his bad mother!